When you meet porn stars in real life you realize that they’re just like us—only a whole lot hotter! I recently sat down with my favorite porn couple, and fantasy sandwich, Tate Ryder and Trenton Ducati, to see how they make porn and their relationship work together—on- and off-camera.
They’ve filmed scenes together for Lucas and HotHouse, danced together and even escorted together so what’s their secret to staying together as a couple? They believe it helps that they’re both in the industry. And, there’s going to be a bit of jealousy anywhere, but they break it down and realize that sex with another guy on camera is work. They’re not going to be doing this forever and it’s toward a longer-term goal.
Escorting is a different story. Certain rules help—for escorting, no kissing and no rimming. (Although Tate is quick to remind us that he loves having that perfect ass of his rimmed!) And no extra-curricular sex. In the end, they got some great advice from Chi Chi LaRue—it all comes down to maturity. Both guys are involved in a campaign called #KillMeth to let folks know that sex and drugs don’t have to go hand in hand.
How did you two meet?
TATE RYDER: We met on a porn shoot for Lucas Entertainment.
Can you enjoy the sex with each other on camera or is it too technical?
TRENTON DUCATI: We always enjoy it because we’re both exhibitionists.
TR: We enjoy it but there are some things that we leave out because if we give it all away to the audience, what do we have when we’re at home?
Do you watch your scenes?
TD: Never, not once!
Do you watch each other’s scenes?
TR: Yes, I like to watch Trenton’s to see who he connects with.
TD: I have once.
Can you make a living in porn?
TD: I have! I’m grateful.
TR: You can make a living if you keep your money and concentrate on it. I also go-go dance, do personal training and escort, so it all adds up.
What’s the nicest thing a fan has ever said to you?
TR: “You’re probably the most beautiful guy in porn!”
TD: When they appreciate the energy and excitement in every scene. You know, after about 50 scenes it takes a little work. You’re not into every guy—there’s some acting—when someone recognizes that it’s great.
What’s the worst thing?
TD: That I should never top.
So many people, myself included, were surprised and thrilled to see you bottom on camera—what do you make of that?
TD: I hear that more than half of the people want to see me bottoming. I’m cool that they like it. I don’t like to limit myself. I’m big and it shows that there’s a gateway for someone taller and bigger to bottom—it’s not just for the smaller guy.
Even though you have one of the best asses in the business it’s nice to see you top every once in a while—does that surprise people?
TD: Yes, because when you’re good at something you should stick with it. When you’re a great painter you don’t try to become a doctor.
When it’s just the two of you, who usually comes out on top?
TD: I do!
TR: I’m more versatile at home. It’s whoever’s in the mood.
If you weren’t a porn star, what would you be doing?
TD: I have a personal training business in Seattle [and] I’d like to open a barbershop.
TR: I started out as a dancer—I injured my leg so that made me give up dancing. My dream job would be a doctor—saving people’s lives. Or an athlete.